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3 Biggest Loser Weight Loss Lessons Learned, Lesson 3

In this last installment of my series on The 3 Biggest Loser Weight Loss Lessons Learned I'm discussing what I think may be the most important lesson you can learn from Biggest Loser of them all!

Weight Loss Lesson 3

Not Being Nice Enough To Yourself, Lesson 3

When inevitably trainers Bob Harper or Jillian Michaels pull aside a Biggest Loser contestant who's still stuck in discovering what it is that triggered their large weight gain, the conversation will often end up being about how they tend to put others first.  That's supposed to be a noble thing in theory, but in reality it can easily lead to weight gain.  And with the right personality, huge weight gain and obesity.

Take the example of one of the super popular teams on the current Biggest Loser Season 9--the grey teamBoy with thumbs up of Koli and Sam.  They obviously would do anything for each other and are often fond of saying "family first."  In fact, in this past week's episode 14, Koli ate over 4,000 calories to win a "challenge." 

Why would he do this when he was doing so well with his own weight loss?  To ensure that his cousin Sam was protected from being voted off the show should he not lose much weight that week.  That's very loving and admirable, but it's still a way to short-change yourself  that can get in the way of losing and maintaining a healthy weight.

And it's not necessarily a sign of a weak personality at all.  Even the strongest personalities can sabotage themselves.  I know I've personally gotten myself into trouble when I've not eaten what I wanted to for a particular meal, when my husband wanted something different.  So not wanting to cook two dinners (like I do when necessary), I put his choice first and put mine on the back burner.

Now fortunately my husband does eat pretty healthy overall, but still we have some pretty strong differences in the food choices and portion sizes.  Like I pretty much only eat fish and plant-based protein, while he still eats quite a bit of chicken and turkey.

Think about your own situation.  How many times have you said "I want to go to the gym, but I have to (fill in the blank with your family activity) for (fill in the blank with your family member or friend)."  "I'd love to eat healthier but (fill in the family member) doesn't like to eat (fill in the name of the healthy food)".

And it doesn't even have to be about exercise or a healthy diet.  It could be that you're not going back to school to finish that degree you always wanted.  You're going to a concert, movie, sporting event or to a vacation destination you don't want to every time, because you're not putting your needs and interests out there.  You're not starting the business or changing to the career you've always wanted.  Get the picture?

And when you don't get to do what you want every single time, and year after year, you let it build up inside until it ends up appearing as unwanted pounds. 

And all you have to do to change is to be nice to yourself.  Put yourself first--not always, because any good relationship--loved one, family member or friend should be a give and take--but often enough so that there's balance in your life, and you're not giving in (without at least a viable compromise) on what's so important to you in your life.

When you're thinking of making yourself take a back seat, keep in mind Journey's song Be Good To Yourself, and you're much more likely to keep weight gain at bay, and get weight loss going.


Did you miss my prior posts in the series? 3 Biggest Loser Weight Loss Lessons Learned, Lesson 1  CLICK HERE or 3 Biggest Loser Weight Loss Lessons Learned, Lesson 2  CLICK HERE


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